Birthday Emotions and Feels

In terms of milestones, 23 means nothing. The real milestone birthday isn’t for another two years, and I can’t imagine it being a milestone for any reason other than being the one in which I’m supposed to experience the quarter life crisis. Oh, the dreaded quarter life crisis. “Lucky” for me though, that’s already happened, and if you’ve graduated from college without a job, you definitely know what I’m talking about. This is the part where I’d normally bash Taylor Swift for writing a song about how “wonderful” 22 is, but she kind of had it right when she said “It’s miserable and magical.”

Though much of the year was spent in transition and I did a lot of eating, crying, and avoiding of Facebook like the plague, I can’t forget the moments that made it all worth it. So thank you, terrifying free-fall out of college. Without you, none of this would have been possible.

  • I’ve now lived in the South and the North, from NY to NC where I made long-lasting friendships and learned a thing or two about football, Jesus and sweet tea. Yes, I lived in Raleigh as a kid, but I hardly remember it.
  • I learned the art of bartending, and that nothing good happens past 1am.
  • I got to travel to the West Coast for the first time, checking “bike ride in Napa” off the bucket list.
  • Though I didn’t have a job for a while, what I did have was enough time on my hands to be published in ten of my favorite, go-to online publications.
  • I had the opportunity to interview for my dream job, and although I didn’t walk away with it, making it as far as I did in the interview process is enough for me to feel proud and to keep striving.
  • For the first time since I was ten, I got to travel to NYC, where I fell in love enough to make the move and start my career in the city that never sleeps!
  • I learned that comparison is the ultimate killjoy, and the best way to avoid getting caught in the trap is to avoid social media. No one posts the bad things, only the out-of-this-world.
  • Saw first hand the ultimate value in surrounding myself with good people. Cafe girls, this means you. This time around has been the most chaotic and frustrating in terms of dinosaurs of all shapes and sizes. Thanking each one of you for your infectious sense of humor, down-to-Earth nature, and overall wonderfulness.
  • Got myself back down to pre-college weight. They weren’t kidding when they said college will make you fat. No thank you, Keystone.
  • Learned the ins and outs, ups and down of the job hunt. It’s a job in itself, and it will make you feel anywhere from wanted to worthless within the same week.
  • Learned that no matter how far apart we are, or how little we might talk during the week, the friendships across cities, states and countries are some of my strongest.

Ultimately, I’ve come to the conclusion that you just don’t learn the good lessons unless you experience some kind of transition.

Growth is a choice. Nothing great ever came from a comfort zone.

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One thought on “Birthday Emotions and Feels

  1. Jules,

    I just want to say that I love your blog. I’m 23 and graduated from college this past December, and I can say that I’ve been able to relate to most of your posts. It’s hard to not compare ourselves to others who are our same age but seem to be way ahead. This has taught me that we all have our own path and we need to just enjoy the ride. Keep on writing, I look forward to reading some more of your posts.



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