The one thing most people in relationships both miss and don’t miss equally, is dating. Sure it’s exciting to be able to date one person tonight, another tomorrow, and get to know a little bit more about yourself in the process. But at the same time, there is never that security that comes with a relationship of knowing that just because you had a good time tonight, that you will continue to have a good time from here on out with that same person.
Of course much of the outcome of a date depends on how well it went, it’s also a good idea to pay attention to location.
1. Coffee Shop – This is the “Step One,” if you will, of getting to know someone. Conversation is meant to be comfortably light, and dress is casual. I’ve always treated coffee dates as screenings. You only have to spend about four dollars to figure out whether or not you want to grab dinner with this person next week, and the best part about it is that there is no set amount of time you have to be there. If things go well, you could spend hours on end. If not, you’re free to leave after a half hour.
2. Dinner – This isn’t the first time you’ve met. This probably isn’t the first time you’ve gone out together, either. I know a guy is serious about getting to know me when he asks me to dinner.
3. Movie at a theatre – “I really want to take you out, but I also really want to see this movie.” That’s nice, and I’m sure the movie will be great. But the point of a first date is to get to know somebody, and sitting together in the dark watching a movie on an oversized projector isn’t going to do the job. It’s kind of offensive, actually.
4. “Movie back at my place” – Let me tell you what goes on in a girl’s mind when she hears this first date request. First, any hope she had of being anything with you goes out the window. She may have been really excited to be receiving texts from you for however long you’ve been talking before this, but now she realizes what you’re looking for, and you’re automatically regarded as “undateable.” If this is someone’s idea of a “first step,” you’re probably on the wrong page.